Today I’ve been thinking about balance in healthy living. I think, like many people, my pendelum swings rapidly between being overly critical and overly forgiving.
Some days I’m all: “Ew, you’re gross you need to work harder! NO excuses! Get after it or else! Are you really, really going to eat that? Don’t you know better?”
And some days I’m all: “Well today didn’t go “great”, that’s okay–you’ll do better tomorrow. Here, have a cookie.”
Neither approach is the answer. If you embrace this seesaw approach you may start feeling like you’ve just been on a carnival ride–you know one of thos ones that swings you waaay up one way and then waaay up the other until all you want to do is throw up your cotton candy.
Here is some “preaching to myself”….
Replace criticism with tough love. Yes, sometimes you need to be the Jillian Michaels of your own life and call yourself out on your B.S. If you’ve been overeating the same thing every night you need to get it out of the house. If you’ve been skipping your workouts you need to do whatever it takes to make it happen. You need to level with yourself. You need to get serious. YOU need to stop YOU from acting like a teenager with a walnut for a brain. But you don’t need to disparage yourself or guilt yourself. Just do the work. #everydamnday You can attack the problem without attacking the person.
Replace excuses or being overly forgiving with caring support; the kind of support you’d show to a friend. Just like you sometimes need that “Jillian Michaels tough love” sometimes you need to be the Oprah Winfrey of your own life and support you! Be your own best cheerleader. Learn to celebrate your accomplishments in a positive (nonfood) way. Allow yourself exceptions; sometimes you should skip a workout without guilt. Set yourself up for success by reaching out for help, making attainable goals, and being realistic.
The marriage of tough love and caring suppport isn’t easy, but I think mastering this combination is what empowers a healthy life long term. Relearning internal thought and self-speech patterns is much harder than just eliminating gluten or busting out a 3 mile run. It is learning to live both in truth and grace, like the Bible talks about.
A difficult path indeed. But one worth walking.
Do you struggle with pendelum swings like this? Which are you more prone to: being overly forgiving or overly critical?
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